Re: Lower Drinking Age to 18?

ohiodawg13 wrote:

Your parents don't necessarily have to be bad people, they can be what may be considered social drinkers, but if you live in Ca. as I do, 2 beers will get your butt thrown in jail and that constitutes one of the criteria of alcoholism. You may live in an environment where drinking beyond that limit seems the norm, but then you are probably in denial about your drinking situation. People have long accepted consumation of alcohol as a social norm, but it's a vice not unlike drugs and other compulsions. I'm not pointing fingers, I'm just stating facts. Just because its legal doesn't mean its a good thing. Deezer, I'm not raggin' on you personally it's just info we all need to process, I dig all of my forum buds and I don't want to see any of you fall prey to any vices. If I was to point fingers the first place I would point is at myself, nuff said???????

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Did you miss the part where I said I've never had a drink in my life? And did you miss the part where in my life my parents have never been drunk, not once? Being around people like that shows you responsibility while drinking. My dad comes home and has three light beers with his supper after busting his butt getting up at 4:30 in the morning. My mom has 2 glasses of wine. Anytime they drink the hard stuff (which is rare, maybe once every couple of months), they sip shots, they don't down them. They've  always preached moderation, if you're going to drink, moderation. That's what these kids out there getting just freakin' hammered have not had, I believe. It's either been the forbidden fruit, or their parents have shown a bad example. As a resident assistant, if I could only tell you how many times I've seen the kid with the very strict Christian upbringing (nothing against Christians - I'm one myself) who got to college and just ran wild. I can use my friends as an example. One of them had a very strict upbringing, his parents wouldn't let me come pick him up one day because we were going to a football game in town, my dad had to. Got to college and just went crazy. My other friend, who had much the same upbringing I had, got to college, had his fun and went to parties, got tipsy a couple of times, but that's it.

And anything can be turned into a vice. Even guitars. We could turn food in a vice. In America, it basically is. we're fatter and fatter and fatter and fatter. I myself would love to lose about 30 pounds, not because I wanna be ripped, but because I just want my belly to jiggle when I brush my teeth.

As far as California, well, living there is just your fault. smile

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For the most part, I agree with you. A lot of people at a young age drink because it's the rebellious thing to do. And some drink because they feel socially accepted finally. And still some drink because maybe they had a bad experience and they don't feel pain anymore when they drink. None of which really ever applied to me. How am I going to be rebellious when all my life I've been around the stuff. If anything, NOT drinking was being rebellious. Secondly, I never gave a hoot what anybody ever thought of me, because I knew I was always just as good, not better or worse, than anybody else. And thirdly, great upbringing, while being instilled in me that turning to a bottle will do nothing to solve your problems. Instead of getting drunk or feeling sorry for yourself (if that's indeed the case of why you're drinking), basically wasting time, you could put yourself to good use, like solving your problems and being done with them.

I truly wish everybody here had the upbringing I had, maybe it would make more sense.

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The mind can overcome anything if it wants to. Even addicts like Stevie Ray thought that.

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ReverendPaul wrote:
Deezer wrote:

The mind can overcome anything if it wants to. Even addicts like Stevie Ray thought that.

No he didn't. I have a cd of one of his open meeting talks.

Really? what did he have to say?

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He had tried to quit before, but only when he was good and ready, in other words, when his mind was in the right place, did he have what it took to beat it.

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SRV said it took an act of God.  He tried to quit and could not untill he surrendered himself with complete abandon to his creator.  EC did the same.  Neither one of them had what it took to beat it.  Neither did I.  A power much greater than the human mind must remove the compulsion and the obsession.  Remove it, not beat it down.

Deezer, if you are not a recovered alcoholic, I respectfully suggest you bow out of this part of the discussion.  You are entitled to your opinion, but it is only that.  Some of us on this forum have EXPERIENCE with this addiction.  It is a deadly affliction, which will tell one there's nothing wrong.  It is a disease of denial.  Self knowledge and will power will not fix it.

If you want to enter a discussion about right/left brain comparisons, email me.

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ReverendPaul wrote:

http://tangledupinblues.com/SRV-AA.html

The sight above is a transcript of Stevie's AA talk for anyone interested.

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Re: Lower Drinking Age to 18?

Don't tell me to bow out. These are my opinions I've had family and friends who have had these problems. Don't tell me I know nothing.

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I'm glad to read that we are in complete agreement.  They are definitely your opinions.

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bigjeffjones wrote:

I'm glad to read that we are in complete agreement.  They are definitely your opinions.

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You dang right they are.

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I would respectfully suggest that there is a qualitative difference between the mind of an addict and a "normal person" (whatever that is exactly).  That's why programs like AA and others are needed, because it isn't just a case of mind over matter.  If you look at the 12 steps it's an admission that willpower is insufficient to deal with addictive disorders.

Another thing that I've found that recovery requires is humility.  Until one hits bottom and recognizes they don't know everything, they are usually hopelessly enmeshed in their disease.

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So what does this have to do with lowering the drinking age? If someone has an addicted personality, they'll wait until they're 21 to get hooked? I really don't see the logic in that. People who have addictive personalities or were going to get addicted to alcohol or drugs in the first are going to whether the age is 21, 18, or if prohibition is put back into place. Stevie himself said he started stealing drinks from his father's liquor cabinet when he was a kid.

I still stand by the fact that if you're considered old enough to die for your country, you should be old to have a beer. Either up the age to enter the army to 21 or lower the drinking age to 18. Because what those kids are doing is the most grown up thing you can do. Whether or not people will become alcoholics does not matter, because they were going to be whether the age is 18 or 21.

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I don't care what state you live in, these days 3 light beers, 2 glasses of wine, 2 shots no matter how slow you drink them will get you busted if you're behind the wheel. Do the research. I don't know about Arkansas, but the state of California sends out info with DMV items such as licences and registration paper work with the break down on weight to alcohol consumed ratios to give residents the hard facts on just how easy it is to be at the allowable limit, here that's .08. Here driving is not a right it's a privalege and can't be revoked for many reasons. Furthermore Cleopatra, don't tell me your parents don't drink and in the next sentence tell me your dad does his daily maintenance of three "light" beers. Maintenance drinking is a sign of an alcoholic. What do you think the alcohol in "light" beer is a magically different type of alcohol than regular beer? Light beer just has fewer calories Einstein. Getting up and feeling like blowing off responsibility because you had one too many the night before is another sign of being alcoholic, just like getting in trouble with the law is another. Seek out an AA meeting and get your hands on some literature to find out how to understand it. For God's sake don't pick on Ca. or any other state for that matter, where you live has nothing to do with this disease.

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50 (edited by Deezer 2008-04-08 13:56:39)

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Clearly you've never met my dad. He can go without them and not get the shakes, and not go, "Oh my gosh I gotta have a beer!" This is the same man who stopped cigarette smoking one day because he didn't want to do it anymore. No patches, no shakes, no nothing. Just stopped. Who just stopped chewing one day because he was tired of it, didn't want to do it anymore. Who will oftentimes go a few weeks without drinking anything just because it gets old to him.

Like I said, you don't know my dad. And I feel bad for you for not. I'm not making him out to be Superman, but one thing he has taught me is how powerful a tool the mind can be.

Oh, and he doesn't get behind the wheel when he drinks.

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Deezer wrote:

So what does this have to do with lowering the drinking age? If someone has an addicted personality, they'll wait until they're 21 to get hooked? I really don't see the logic in that. People who have addictive personalities or were going to get addicted to alcohol or drugs in the first are going to whether the age is 21, 18, or if prohibition is put back into place. Stevie himself said he started stealing drinks from his father's liquor cabinet when he was a kid.

I still stand by the fact that if you're considered old enough to die for your country, you should be old to have a beer. Either up the age to enter the army to 21 or lower the drinking age to 18. Because what those kids are doing is the most grown up thing you can do. Whether or not people will become alcoholics does not matter, because they were going to be whether the age is 18 or 21.

If this is directed at me, I think we have 2 or more contentious issues confused in this thread.  I don't think there's a perfect answer on the drinking age.  We could ban it but it wouldn't stop people from drinking (we tried that under Prohibition and it was a miserable failure).  It's hard to argue that it is just that someone can fight and die for their country at 18 but they can't legally drink.  It's one of those issues where there is no perfect solution.  However, I think the laws against drunk driving and carelessly abetting those who do should be tightened up and punishments increased.  But no matter what happens with the laws it's not going to eliminate drinking anyway.  In the end it comes down to each individual and personal responsibility as far as their own well-being, and jail time for those who harm or endanger others.

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It was kinda directed at everybody. We went from discussing whether the drinking age should be lowered to what alcoholism is. Those two are independent discussions in my mind.

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I will say this.  He's lucky to have a son that regards him so highly.  I hope you tell him.

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I'm going to follow him into the bbq bidness. It's like I always tell him, "I hate having a boss, except for one person."

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