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Dear Amanda,

I 'm so sorrow for you to have lost your beloved father. I wish you all the strength you need in these very hard times.
Don't be afraid for the funeral, you will see that you are stronger than you think you are. On moments like that there is a force in you, you can't explain. I hope it will be a wonderful goodbye for all of you. I know it sounds strange but I lost my parents years ago but the funeral and the goodbye were , how shall I say, filled with dignity, love and respect. I still have a very good feeling about it, despite the loss.
I'll play the song - Is this the end?- from Thin Lizzy for your dad now. It's my homage  to him.
You can always contact me or people from this forum if you need to, we'll be there for you.

Andre Wittebroek

  • Registered: 2007-01-29
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Oh Amanda, my deepest sympathies to you and your family. I, too, lost my dad at an early age, and no matter what the circumstances, we just have to ask "Why?" sometimes. But you have to understand: He's still with you. He's in your memories, he's watching over you and your family, and he will see your daughter grow up into a lovely young woman. I can tell he was a great man. Hang in there. Keep him in your heart. This too shall pass.
Here's a hug:  ((((((((((((((((Amanda))))))))))))))))

Mary

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WOW.  Amanda, you are strong & brave to lay your emotions out so honest and bare here.  I am deeply moved.
I think everyone  responding is offering to take a little pain away if possible, I think your Dad would want you to put some kind of music into your days during this dazed period of life.  Look at my tag line too-After silence, that which comes nearest to expressing the inexpressible is music.
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I am so sorry for your loss . But I know your dad is in a better place . He will always be with you . 
JON

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Amanda,

Forgive my belated reply to your terrible news.  I was away from the forum when it happened and didn't read it until this very moment.

I am so sorry for your loss.  In the time that has passed since your post, I hope that your Dad's funeral and the time you've spent with others who love him was able to bring you some level of comfort.  I too know the pain of losing my father.  It has been 19 years for me and I still miss him terribly.  That's the bad news.  The good news is that I feel him with me.  I can still hear him laugh, see him smile, feel him comfort and teach me.  I can hear him playing incredible jazz/blues piano as I drift off to sleep sometimes.  My father gave me many things - an introduction to GREAT music was one of the more priceless.  I'm glad that your Dad gave you the same thing.  The way I see it, if it weren't for your father, you wouldn't be here, with us.  I am grateful to him for that.

There are incredible people here in the forum Amanda, with big shoulders to lean and cry on.  Please let us help you in any way you need.

xoxo,

Libby

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Dear Amanda

My hearfelt condolences for your loss. I lost my mother at a very young age and the pain, confusion, anger and a million other emotions may seem at this time, too much to comprehend but through time your good memories will soothe the pain.

Hang in there.

millhouse

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  • From: Boston, UK
  • Registered: 2008-02-18
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I wanted to thank everyone for their messages. It has been an unbelievably hard time for me the last couple weeks, and now i am back in england all i want to do is get back home again. To be there for my little brother (who is not so little now at 18) and my half sister who is only 12. And my step mom, bless her can do with some help!

Im glad i went and im not so angry now, i was so tired of people teling me he is in a betetr place- to me the best place was here with us. Everything is rather raw. From hearing Snow Patrol on the radio (my dad was a fan, he wanted an album he couldnt get and my husband had it. I told my dad i would send it with marchs pay- and of course i never got to) To just seeing pictures of him- happy.

I bought Blues Deluxe the other day- not because i could afford it- but because i needed something to take my mind off things- and its made me want to pull that guitar out of the attic. (i have to keep my nails short for work anyway) so maybe ill pick it up again. Dad always loved that i wanted to play. He was always better than i could ever be- he had far more patience and far more skill. I wanted the guitar because it just looks cool. ha ha

Thanks everyone, it has made a difference- at the time you feel like no one can possibly know what you are going through, and in reality too many know.

cheers x

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Good to have you back Amanda, questions were being asked......

Dive headlong into music, immerse yourself in it, it will soothe the soul and help bandage the wounds, metaphorically speaking.

If you feel like crying, just let it all go. And if you need it, there are plenty of people here willing and able to give good advice, and to just listen.

RIP Iron Man

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Amanda..So glad to hear from you, I've been worrying! Grief is a process..good day and bad..but those memories of happy things you shared with your Dad will help. Please get that guitar out and play. If it brings him back to your soul then it will be "time spent together"..I know he would be proud. We are all here for you on the forum or via e-mail. Music is a healer.  Cathy

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Like Roy, George and Cathy already said ;take your time for griefing and thinking of dad. In the end the good memories will take over.

If you need talking or something else we are here. Just let us know.

Andre Wittebroek.

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Oh Amanda - I too am SO glad that you are back home AND that you took the time and energy to come back HERE to tell us so.  We've been worrying about you and have just been waiting to hear how you are. 

Grief is indeed a process - and the rawness will eventually lessen - trust me - but, you must allow yourself to feel everything - try not to stuff your feelings.....they'll come out eventually and it is generally much easier to deal with them the first time they bubble to the surface.  Time really does help - as trite as that may sound - it is true.

I hope that you have a support network of loved ones around you who will let you talk things out through this process.  It's important.  Do let any and all of us know what we can do for you. 

xoxo,

Libby

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