For those who have lost a loved one (Page 1 of 2)

Hey George..Hang in there...The "firsts" are the worse. You wouldn't miss her so much if she didn't fill you with joy. Remember those moments. I am a firm believer in letting the tears roll when you need to. What time does is give you the strength to put that sorrow into a "controlled" area of your brain. That doesn't mean moments of sorrow won't blind-side you, but it won't occupy so much of your thoughts. I bet she would remind you that the family is all in pain and it's up to you to lead them into the future. She sounds like a great lady. Doing this...reaching out and offering help to others is the best thing you could do! Represent her well and know she'll always be with you.                   Bluezman..sometimes leaving a lover is the only way to get their attention..You're right..Meth is a dangerous drug that is causing havoc across this country! But you can only do so much. She has to want to rescue herself and do it! You can't (damn men always trying to fix everything). Save yourself. Go out there and get the life you deserve. That includes a partner who will give back what she gets. I had to get some "distance" from my bad relationship to find myself again. NEVER AGAIN! Only loving people in my life now!            To All: The older you get, the more people that are missing from the Holiday table. Life includes loss, and you usually don't know when. So, forget the petty stuff, tell the people you care about how you feel and count your blessings...It's easy to find people who have few... Here if you need me...Cathy

Cathy is right.  Use the force!  Men do (TRY &) fix stuff, untill they've lived long enough to open their eyes.

Or as Rev Wirtz said, "Better to have loved and lost, than spend the rest of your life with that insane m*****f*****,"   Not making fun, have the same issue this year.  Kinda scary to think I'm the only voice of reason over my way right now.

Cry, get pissed, howl at the moon.
THE FUNKY dR OF LOVE

George, Bluezman, Nancy and all the others who have lost someone they love this year, I wish you all the best, strenght and peace for the future.
I know what it is especially these days. My father died 20 years ago on New Years Eve. he had cancer and was in hospital since the 10th of December. The day before Christmas he came  in coma and I was in hospital till the moment he passed away, first time I had Christmas in hospital, I slept at his room. It was very strange but strange enough it felt peaceful.

So Christmas is very special to me, I'm not religous but my father was a God to me, time heals wounds they say, it's true that you must deal with the loss, but I  cry  now.
I'm not ashamed about that, when I didn't have to cry I must be ashamed! It means the loved-one ment a lot to you .

I wish you all the best and hope you can give the loss a spot  in your life.

Big kisses and a big hug!!

Andre Wittebroek.

Hey George,

Had to Cry Today does make a very real visit upon us all once in a while.  I got it again this year in awful ways.  I wish it was a breakup for me to get over instead of another too young first cousin from the same family dying from the same disease of cancer and a 21 year old nephew committing to suicide.  But regardless, losing anything, from a dear friend or relative to a pet to a relationship once filled with timeless and boundless joys, really can bring one down to despair and quiet or not so quiet desperation or a  feeling of near "emptiness"...Joe's Had To Cry Today CD shows 2 broken gas pumps in the desert-quite fitting a visual relating to feelings of those who "relate" and have lost something / someone this year (or past years, and in years coming).  the best we can do is cry a little, be thankful for what was, and moreover, thankful for what nothing can ever take away from the past and it's pleasures...not even time and it's slow healing properties dare diminish or devalue the good and the great and the wonder or the good memories...
Although I only type words, I offer you a hug with real feelings we can share, the feeling that is there, always, the feeling is "I care".  I care.  You take care.

Keep the Faith,
Rocket

"He still doesn't charge for mistakes! "
http://jbonamassa.com/tour-dates/
"Everybody wants ta get inta the act!"
“Now, this isn’t your ordinary party crowd, here.  I mean, there are professionals in here.”

Patty and Rocket - thank you...words fail me right now....

I'm so damn lonely.........

Hi George,
I have no words.  I just want you to know that your post touched my heart and reminds me that life is so precious.  You will be in my thoughts and prayers as you make your way through this incredibly difficult time in your life.  If there was anything I could say that would make you feel better, I would say it, but I know there isn't. I just wanted you to know that I am one more person that cares.  I know it doesn't seem like it's possible right now, but I wish you lots of love and  happiness in your future. 

Big hug!!!

Susan

I don´t have the right expressions for what I want to say, but you have really touched my heart with your posts, George.
I just wish that all the good thoughts I send to you will "arrive at your doorstep" ...

I have never lost a loved one in my life, but I´m very afraid of it.
I often think about how precious life is - just when you can put your arms around someone you love, or you walk up on a hill and look down on this crazy, wonderful, beautiful world - then you realize that you should be aware of all the good things when they´re there. But often you "Don´t know what you got, til you loose it"....

I have only met you once for a few hours, George, but I send you all the good thoughts I have right now... hope some of them arrive.

Eva

I saw my 93 yr old grandpa the day after Christmas.  He passed away less than an hour later. Lots of good times will never be forgotten.
"Play some cards and drinking black coffee..." that lyric brings a tear to my eye now.

- Nic from Detroit... posting on JB's Forum since 6-2-2006
Ask me about my handwound Great Lakes Guitar Pickups
Since 2010, Bonamassa fans have taken advantage of my JB friend discount = my cost + shipping.