Question about Band Educate

I think it comes down a little to communication with your fellow bandmates.

You say the other 3 guys in the band only want to play live 1 or 2 times per month, but has that question actually been asked?

If the proposed trio plays as much as you say then presumably rehearsal and performances including the other 3 members will be compromised, so it is a kind of 'de facto' new band set-up effectively ending the other combo, without any real dialogue or discussion.

That will lead to some bad feeling and detrimental comment. All quite usual in band disputes and break ups, but avoidable to some extent if you want.

I think being honest is the crux of it. There is a commercial incentive and the three of you are prepared to grab it and run with on the basis you are all hungry for it. That is fair enough but get together and explain why. It can be presented as a cut and dried thing to the ousted, or forgotten 3, so as to forestall any further discussion but at least there can be no accusation of deceit.

I suspect when asked you may find the others might be prepared to do more, as perhaps they value the band and don't want it split up. Then you have a choice to call their bluff and committment to the project or not, although it sounds like your decisions are already made though to go on as a trio, after all, you are going to earn more.

I think the etiquette is whether to be open about it. It might not avoid an argument, but at least there is no behind the scenes dealing. If you think it will p*$$ people off, why do it that way?

There are no unspoken rules as far as I know being broken by what you intend to do, but if it is as intense as you say it will be you are effectively going to end the band as it is and exclude 3 of the members. Musicians tend to be very reticent about accepting the consequences of their actions sometimes.

I recently broke with a problem female partner. I found out just now the drummer in the band I was playing with at the time 2 years ago, who I thought was a close friend, had been approached by her then about getting together. He never told me at the time, or when he  knew that she later even tried the same tactic with the bassist! OK, we all know now she has a Borderline Personality Disorder, but there was no word to the wise from them to me, which actually, could have been extremely helpful to know let me tell you.

It is a completely different situation of course, but 'unspoken rules' and moral behaviour just don't seem to figure in it sometimes. But it would be nice if it did.

So you can just do it and forget about them. Isn't that what happens most of the times? Sad to say.

Well I work one of the 3 that is in the main band and he's quiting on us.  He's not mad at me but he's mad in general.  The question about playing out more has been brought up a lot and it never changes.  The other 3 just are not willing to play out more then 1 time a month.  I get along with all of them but if they decide to quit its their choice not mine.