Cool man, and good luck with your first gig! You'll never forget it and I'm sure it'll go well for you.
As far as taming the highs on the JCM900 goes, there are people who mod them. There are bright caps in place that I'm sure you could snip to warm the amp right up. Might make the cleans sound a little too warm but I would check out the Marshall forum to get a better informed answer www.marshallforum.com .
One thing I noticed when blending amps is that my core amp sound (the DSL100 Marshall) is actually a little bright for my liking by itself. I am constantly trying to dial out the highs on that amp, especially when I start cranking it. The speakers I'm using doesn't help this because they are geared for edgier rock but it's a great sounding cab. Anyways when I add my "alternate" amp I notice that the sound all of the sudden changes dramatically and warms up very nicely. Cool thing is, it also retains the articulation and clarity of the Marshall!
For Joe's "rude" Marshall tone yes two Marshalls would be preferred. Joe tends to use Plexi style amps though for his alternate sound. I find that Plexi amps are cleaner, warmer, and more articulate than the modern offerings from Marshall.
Now if you are on a budget here are some suggestions and amps that would consider:
1) Marshall Vintage Modern- very plexi-like on the low gain section of the amp. It uses KT66's which offer a very vintagey, cool vibe to the tone. If you are needing another combo (I think you mentioned that your JCM900 is a combo) it comes in that configuration as well.
2) Used Top Hat Emplexador version 1- the first version of this amp can be found VERY cheap and it's an amazing amplifier. I've seen them go for around $1200 used. Very very versitile Marshall type amp that can do anything from Plexi to hot-rodded JCM800 stuff.
3) Ceriatone and Metro Amp plexi kits- You can build your own handwired Plexi Marshall for peanuts! George from Metro is offering his kits at discounted prices PLUS free upgrades included like a PPIMV and SOZO caps. This route will cost you about a grand.
4) There are tons of budget "poor man's" plexi style amps like the old Traynor heads, Sovtek Mig, Fender Bassman head (trust me, it can crunch with the best of any Marshall especially with a 12AX7 in V1!!!), etc etc etc.
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