Is the world going to the dogs? (Page 3 of 3)

As always, words of wisdom from one who knows. Thank you Günter for saying in a few words, what many of us have been trying to say in many.

Roy

Well spotted that man.

I will state it as " I don't know either." Dogs have their own way of handling misbehavior among the pack. Luckly they have the Dog Whisperer to sort the odd one out.

Raising a good citizen of society is a group effort. Parents that care schools that care and a kid willing to listen to people that can help them make the right choices. In the end it is the responsibility for the individual to make the right decisions. Too often they have excuses for bad behavior not remorse.

I grew up with little parental supervision. I would argue that the 50's and 60's as a whole had pretty lax supervision. We ran the neiborhoods till it was too dark to see. I knew very few of my friends parents. As long as we didn't burn the house down and didn't blast the stereo too loud anything pretty much went.  Not many of us went on to murder our family, friends or our coworkers.

Maybe my last post wasn´t clear enough. It is indeed a mixed message. I don´t know where evil is coming from: there are a lot of philosophical and psychological speculations but nobody knows really. I do know how to do therapy with aggressive people. But most important imo would be prevention, to teach kids to handle negative and (self-)destructive feelings.
The interesting question is who should do that: school, churches, special coaches??? The parents can´t give anything to their kids what they haven´t got themselves. Jim, I agree that ongoing parental presence or even forced "educational" effort is not necessary and - in some cases -even contraproductive. Kids are learning by the model parents give.
Günter

Very true Jim, but when we were growing up we didn't have the graphic violence of Freddie Kruger in the movies we watched, we didn't have violent video games. Hanging out with buddies and raising a little hell, yes that was just part of growing up.
But if one of your classmates pi$$ed you off, did you ever have any urge to go home and grab your dad's shotgun and kill as
many people in school as you could? I doubt it. Who knows what goes on in the minds of kids who play video games for 8 hours each day, killing thousands of space aliens, cops or enemy soldiers? At what point do these kids just lose touch with reality?

Nope, you're wrong. He actually said he doesn't know. He even confirmed it.

"Of course, I'm sure you're much smarter than I am. Are you a trained and educated psychotherapist too, that has dealt with individual's violent behavioral patterns? Come on Geoff, you are, aren't you?"

Roy, chill out dude, life's too short.

Jeez...'whatever'.....it's like having a conversation with my daughter when she was in her teens

Relax, too much angst is bad for your health.

But FYI, yes I am well educated actually and I have had experience of dealing with the violent behaviour patterns of individuals. As for trained....I'm a parent.....go figure!