Jane H. wrote:i guess what i am trying to say is before you mentioned the sports message board thing and how you get in heated arguments there, that I have given you more benefit of the doubt than I will now. like i have always tried to see a kinder gentler Deezer than others may have but now I will have a hard time thinking you might not be stirring the pot or being argumentative than in the past. not that I beleive you mean anything but good here overall, it just will color how I read your posts a little. if that makes sense,lol. i know i can't articulate to save my self . just liek i know how some people read what i say in a certain way perhaps because of the things i have said here in the past. whether or not they were misread to begin with.
but i can say i think different about how i read what you say now, after reading your replies in the post, as compared to what i was thinking after just reading the first post in the thread.
if that made sense,cool. if not(meanign if i didn't make sense), that makes sense to me
its all good with me
You tend to argue more with sports. That's a fact. Mainly because it is competitve. It's not all just rah-rah we love our team. It's generally people who know what they're talking about who have different opinions, which makes for fascinating topics of discussion. The very definition of sports is that it's competitive. And they are heated, but at the same time for the most part respectful. There's only been one or two where the people have gotten so mad at me that they've resulted to name-calling, and were quickly told to cool it by the moderators. Plus, with sports, there tend to be more definitives than in music, because there are numbers. The reason why so many people on a message board tend to be more respectful is because it is quite hard to tell what is better or who is better. Are the Stones better than the Beatles? Hard to tell. Nothing number-wise to prove it. So people just say well that's your opinion, carry on. With sports, it's more concrete. Just the nature of the beast. You can talk about this guy's average vs. this guy's average. A guy can say this guy is better, and you present concrete knowledge that he's wrong, and he still says it. Obviously, he's wrong. And it goes from there. To pick between music and sports, sports is way more immature. It's full of preening, I told you so's, and IN YOUR FACE! lol For instance, an LSU fan came on the Razorback site to talk trash about how they beat us last year, and were going to beat us next year. After this Friday, when we won, the boards were full of people going, "Where you at? Time to eat some crow!" Music boards are just way more laid-back and more accepting to opinions. Way more mature. Plus, there just isn't that much competition. That being said, you get two people together who are passionately on the opposite ends of an opinion regarding music, and it can get uglier than any discussion I've seen. And it generally affects the board more, because there are less of them and it is completely off the wall from typical forum "culture," if you will.
They're different beasts which requires different styles. I don't stir the pot here, you can be sure of that. Just to the point. So which is the real me? I tend to probably hold back more here than anywhere, mainly because of the respect I have for Joe and the love of his music and most of everyone here. Plus, I've seen what happens when you get cross-ways with the right people on an artist's message board. I'm just one of those people that if you ask me for an opinion, you're going to get it. Let me rephrase that: if I have an opinion, you're going to hear it. Because I want people to do the same to me, You don't agree with me, that's fine. Mainly, I'll let you know my opinion, you'll tell me yours, and we'll go on.
Plus, I love a good debate. There's nothing better. As long as it's for the most part respectful. And I think there is a big difference between just flaming somebody and getting into a heated discussion. That being said, what's good for the board is good for me.
Basically, I think it comes down to simply personality differences within the person itself. You're going to act differently when you're in a fine, upscale restaurant as compared to the bbq joint around the corner, you know?
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