• From: St. Louis, MO
  • Registered: 2006-06-20
  • Posts: 960

Re: Happy Birthdays

Vicky, and everyone else,

I agree with everyones points they have brought up here. I usually try to see if there is already an existing post before I start one. However I am not the type that posts a lot, sometimes it is weeks or a month before I post, then sometimes a bunch of times within a day or week. My posts are usually limited to things I feel compelled to say or regarding photos, or getting together for a show. I admit, sometimes they are a bit stuffy or unrelaxed sounding, lol.

I think sometimes people tend to start a new thread for existing topics when the original thread wanders off topic. People might fear that for those who have not read the original post, and then the thread goes off topic, they will not stay with it and read through the existing posts to find the later or a new pertinant post. Anyone else have any comments to add to this? I think the post by Kharig in the General Topics "The intent of this forum" (or something like that) was what she was sort of getting at.   

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  • From: Benicia, Ca.
  • Registered: 2006-05-08
  • Posts: 5,828

Re: Happy Birthdays

Well Rhonda, I started this thread when George poked a little fun my way for duplicating Libby's birthday greeting. His point was valid as I explained to him that sometimes I just breeze through here and don't pay attention to details of every post. Her birthday was one of those times and I had something to say and I said it. Nobody should shy away from saying what's on their mind here, just put it under the right topic of course. Like I've said before it's not like we're wasting paper here(think green), so speak up members. Topical conversations have to start somewhere.

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  • Registered: 2006-12-28
  • Posts: 3,742

Re: Happy Birthdays

Jdawg, I brought up this birthday idea about 8 months ago. Not everyone wanrts there birthday recognized, but I sure do, cuz I needs the luv!

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22 Reply by NPB_EST.1979 (edited by NPB_EST.1979 2008-06-28 11:21:46)

  • From: Detroit
  • Registered: 2006-06-02
  • Posts: 5,807

Re: Happy Birthdays

bigjeffjones wrote:

OK here's a parallel:

I go to a jam.  Some musician walks in, invites himself up on stage and starts playing without listening to or looking at what's going on because what he has to say is way more important than joining in the present song being played and making IT better.

Acceptable?

HELL NO!

In a jam, you at least ask permission to join in. It's the cool thing to do. Jumping in is never appreciated unless you know the guys and they wave you in or get the 'nod to come on up...

I've even had my own gig, and people try to invite themselves on stage, and I don't even know them! How rude! If they come up on stage and start doing whatever I'll play along with a pee-oed look on my face, but if they ask first I still just say "dude - I would but I don't know you and I dont wanna clear the place if it's bad...no offense." It's a faux pas unless you ask casually. You don't wanna back people into a corner or intrude. Or "hey man, can I play your Les Paul?"  OK, you're drunk - and who are you!? HELL NO!

At the same time, I'll go to a place where there's live music and my friends will say "why don't you ask em if you can play a couple with them?" I casually reply "dude- it's not my gig." And the inevitable reply is "well, people do it to YOU all the time."

I digress....

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  • From: Edgewater, FL
  • Registered: 2007-12-08
  • Posts: 5,046

Re: Happy Birthdays

NPB_EST.1979 wrote:
bigjeffjones wrote:

OK here's a parallel:

I go to a jam.  Some musician walks in, invites himself up on stage and starts playing without listening to or looking at what's going on because what he has to say is way more important than joining in the present song being played and making IT better.

Acceptable?

HELL NO!

In a jam, you at least ask permission to join in. It's the cool thing to do. Jumping in is never appreciated unless you know the guys and they wave you in or get the 'nod to come on up...

I've even had my own gig, and people try to invite themselves on stage, and I don't even know them! How rude! If they come up on stage and start doing whatever I'll play along with a pee-oed look on my face, but if they ask first I still just say "dude - I would but I don't know you and I dont wanna clear the place if it's bad...no offense." It's a faux pas unless you ask casually. You don't wanna back people into a corner or intrude. Or "hey man, can I play your Les Paul?"  OK, you're drunk - and who are you!? HELL NO!

At the same time, I'll go to a place where there's live music and my friends will say "why don't you ask em if you can play a couple with them?" I casually reply "dude- it's not my gig." And the inevitable reply is "well, people do it to YOU all the time."

I digress....

Even at the FishStock Festival, which was a concert,  I had some guy ask my brother if didn't we need a "harp" player.  My brother just pointed at me and said ask that foul tempered bassman over there, the big ugly one.  I said, "This is a paying gig, not a jam and we have a show already rehearsed.  So no." 

He was stunned for a moment.  Then I said "Thanks for offering, though.  Stick around."  He grinned real big, proudly displaying both of his teeth and wondered off in pursuit of adult refreshment.  At least he asked.  So respect, there.

But the parallel I was trying to draw (and Bill's example is way more palatable) is more along the lines of hurry up and get outa my way so I can solo for 96 bars.  Forget about the mood or the desired effect of the song.

It's going to happen.  I can be impulsive too.  I go off topic.  I'm not sure freaking out about it is necessary...ie. laying down hard & fast rules, but I'm in agreement with calling it out if it annoys you.

So duly noted.  It's rare that I start a new thread, anyway.  And ADD? whatever do yo...

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  • From: Central PA, USA
  • Registered: 2007-11-18
  • Posts: 1,037

Re: Happy Birthdays

I appreciate everyone weighing in on this, and thanks for the support.  I was actually wondering/hoping we had somebody here with moderator experience who would speak up, so George I thank you for sharing your opinions.  I'm wondering if our own mods have been reading this thread and what their thoughts are?  From their perspective this might feel a bit like criticism, but I sure hope they don't take offense, because that's not how I meant any of this... actually from what I've observed, they're some of the coolest mods I've come across.

It was pointed out to me by email that my comments had come on the heels of that "What's the real reason for this forum?" thread [ http://www.jbonamassa.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=6632 ] which everyone responded to passionately.  Funny thing is, I had read that thread, totally disagreed with the poster, would have posted to that effect if the thread hadn't already been locked, and had totally forgotten about it by the time I posted my comments.  See, she was disagreeing with the CONTENT of posts (sticking to the music and leaving out the personal stuff), whereas I'd just like to avoid duplicate threads and keep some order.  I mean I can see her perspective since she must not be personally involved with people here, but hey that's just the natural evolution of show reviews (and posts in general) once everyone becomes friendly and gets to know each other and even meet.  My advice to her would be to skip/ignore it... hell, I often do, and I LIKE all you guys!  And as far as posters often just including a setlist and almost no music review... well after so many shows, especially with basically the same setlist, you start to run out of adjectives and new stuff to say, so that's also the natural evolution of reviews.

Well anyway, I don't mean to start up that other thread's conversation again here, but I did have some things to say about it, so I did. tongue

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