1 (edited by Amsterhammer 2009-10-06 22:28:22)

Topic: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Just one point before I start - I'm not out for sympathy or commiserations, I'm simply telling it like it is, and to do that I have to place my introduction to Joe in the context of my life.

I signed on here with the internet persona I have used for nearly 10 years - 'Amster' because I live in Amsterdam, 'Hammer' because I am a serious supporter of West Ham United football team from London, known as 'The Hammers.

My name is George, I am 58 years old, American, and have lived here for nearly 19 years. Last May, my deeply beloved wife died after a four year fight against breast cancer. Because I always wanted to stay near her to help however I could, I hadn't been to any concerts or festivals for years and pretty much became out of touch with developments in music except for my two main musical loves, The Boss and Bonnie Raitt.

When I finally managed to emerge from the initial horror and despair, I discovered the lineup at Bospop in July and decided that I was going to start my new life by going to see John Mayall, Paul Rodgers, gary Moore and John Fogerty. I had never heard of Joe!

The lady I went with insisted that I join her in watching Joe in the tent, which I did. After his first song, I said to her, 'This boy is really good'. After each subsequent number my jaw dropped further with disbelief. How could I have never heard of somebody this good? In short, despite my enjoyment of many other acts that day, no one impressed me like Joe, who completely blew me away.

As soon as I got home I trawled Youtube and started downloading everything I could find. Given the context of my state of mind trying to emerge from major trauma, and given that this was my first festival in years, my first faltering steps at a new life without my wife, just imagine how totally gobsmacked and deeply moved I was by the symbolism of discovering that the song that had made the biggest impression on me was called.....'Bridge to better days'!

And so it proved.....I've hardly listened to anyone but Joe since, I've got everything official (and some that isn't) on my HD. I turned three friends on to Joe, all of whom wanted to join me at the Paradiso as soon as i told them he was coming on Oct. 12.

Joe's music has been of unimaginable comfort to me this summer; he's lifted me when I needed lifting; he's helped me to cry when I needed to: he's consoled me when I needed consoling. As I have recently also started a new relationship, I now truly feel that I am more than halfway over that bridge to better days!

Thank you, Joe.

P.S. Breast cancer is on the increase throughout western society. Women are being affected at increasingly younger ages. I have two sincere, heartfelt requests for all users of this forum - please support the fight against cancer however you choose, but DO IT! And ladies, even if you're still only in your 20's, please have your breasts checked regularly. The earliest possible detection of this potential killer is vitally important!

RIP Iron Man

Rock On and keep the Faith

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Welcome Amsterhammer.

What a way to find Joe he certainly did put on a great show at Bospop.
I am sorry to hear about your wife and wish you all good .
Might see you in Paradiso/ Hardrock cafe.

October is the so called ' Breats cancer month'  started by the Pink Ribbon foundation. I am very happy that the company i work for sells braceletts and give away 'pink ribbons' to customers to be more awear of this type of cancer. My grandma [2 years ago] and my mother [7 years ago] both suffered breast cancer.I am very happy that they both are in good health at the moment .

Annelies

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Welcome Amsterhammer , I think we've all had the jaw drop thing happen to us upon hearing Joe play. Lucky you  listened to your lady friend , would have been a shame to miss .. Enjoy the forum your with some of Joes biggest fans ...                                                      Paul/JBrules                                                    p.s. Good advice

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First of all I want to say that I feel so sorry for you to have lost your wife from cancer. It truly is a terrible disease. I know a bit what you're talking about. I wrote about it on this forum when Geko lost his best  due to cancer too. We have it in our family. but fortunately I don't have the wrong cells, they found out by a DNA test ,2 years ago.Very good news.

After my parents and sister died music helped me a lot, that time specially Thin Lizzy.
I can imagine what Joe's music does to you.
When I play Sloe Gin from the North Sea Jazz Festival I often have to cry, emotions ,memories come back, think of my 2 wonderful children my parents ans sister never saw....

Joe's music and the forummembers give me support and lost of pleasure too. For me too it was the best musical experience for  many  years. I know him for 4 years now, met him a few times and he so nice and friendly too.

I was at Bospop too and Friday we will meet at 1700 in front of Paradiso, hope we can all meet Joe too. Maybe he can come there too or in the Hard Rock Cafe just after for a picture with all his musicfriends.
With you we have people from Holland, Germany, England, USA and Italy!! Really impressive so JOE if you read this let us know please!!

See you on Friday,

Andre Wittebroek.

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Hallo Amsterhammer im Geko im very sorry of your wife its a pain nobody can handle it ,and its so mutch pain for the man (frind that have shoulder the situation)..... i live pain these days too.... , not that i lose my wife but i have los my bests frinds Willy41 years young he was a Human he has die in August by cancer he was full in his body at the end ......then my all over best frind (he was a dog).....his name was Spike my loveley one.... he has protect me and i have protect him .....he past away yesterday 06.10.2007 ...so i drink as mutch as i can .....wash away that pain .(im so mutch crying) miss him so mutch dont know what to do with all  the day ......im hurt so deep......please god take him in your arms and care till i come too.....only want to say this !!!
i thought about to sell my cards for the Conzerts but i think i have to go there to find another view ......let me think in future ?..mabye in some moments if Joe playe asking around for you i find a place where i can talk imagin to my lost

Amsterhamer i see you in Amsterdam ......dont know if all is written well im so drunken can look out of my eyes.......cry my tears out


Now sitting all alone home ...

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Geko - this forum doesn't seem to have private messages, so I will mail you. I'm here if you want to talk.

I will certainly be in front of the Paradiso at 1700 on Friday and look forward to meeting as many of you as possible! I'll be the nearly bald guy with a big moustache.

RIP Iron Man

Rock On and keep the Faith

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Geko , Really sorry to hear of your loss yesterday . I'm sure Spike will be well cared for in heaven, and will be there with his tail waggin when you join him.  Try to stay positive during this tough time, and enjoy the concert at the Parsdiso . Let Joes music heal your soul   .. Paul/JBrules

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

First i like To thank you ALL...and second i like to excuse me for have Post my Privat ...its not the place to do ........(you right Amsterhammer)
...i look forward to have most fun i can get at the both Konzerts ....



ps: my future posts are focus on Joe and His Musik.......sure

bye see you at the show
Geko

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Geko wrote:

First i like To thank you ALL...and second i like to excuse me for have Post my Privat ...its not the place to do ........(you right Amsterhammer)
...i look forward to have most fun i can get at the both Konzerts ....



ps: my future posts are focus on Joe and His Musik.......sure

bye see you at the show
Geko

Geko,
Please do not apologize for your post. You are certainly a part of the forum family...the people who frequent this forum and have a common bond. There are guidelines to staying on topic, (I think you did) but I believe these can be bent in certain instances. I hope you find peace after your losses.
Amsterhammer,
Welcome to the forum. I am glad that you have found a bridge to better days. I can understand that in some small way. Although I have not experienced a significant loss like you have, the small troubles of life seem to melt away when I listen to music and Joe's music in particular. Welcome to the forum and the greatest group of fans/friends around.
Bill S

"Rock ON & Keep the Faith"

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Amsterhammer, I sent you an e-mail..Geko..I second what Bill said and am sending you a big forum hug!...Cathy

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

I also agree with what Bill says, the reason you put those thoughts out here is that you feel comfortable enough with it. we all have that special connection to joes music,and the forum has become like a big family.Its great to have/give support to those who need it .So we hear your greif Geko and hope you feel better soon. Amsterhammer your's is a great touching story and gives hope to those who need the courage to move on in life.

Your rock candy baby
Your hard sweet and sticky

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Hi George,
Welcome to the forum and I'm glad better days are here for you.  smile

I hadn't realized about breast cancer spreading around the entire globe until the current Time Magazine issue dated October 15th came in the mail.  For anyone interested it's the featured story.  "Why Breast Cancer Is Spreading Around The World"  Plus: A guide to the latest treatments.

StringsforaCURE~Helping cancer patients one STRING at a time.
http://stringsforacure.com/

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Welcome to the Forum Amsterhammer George,
     Come right on in and take your shoes off, stay awhile.  The power of Joe is beyond any of us.  Joe has a very special gift that we are fortunate enough to share.  I don't believe in coincidence.  I think we were all  meant to be on this Joe- path together.  I can't imagine finding a nicer group of people than the people brought together by Joe.   Each concert I meet someone new and I always seem to find people that I feel like I have known my entire life.  We just seem to  fall in- step with each other.    I thank God every day for Joe Bonamassa and all the goodness & greatness that has come into my life.
                                                                                   pattyluvsjoe smile

"I'm not nice to any guitar!"      lol
                 Joe Bonamassa 05-03-12

JBLP CHILD #184

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Thanks for the kind words of welcome, people, and for the personal contact.

I will check out the Time article, thanks for the tip Angela. Sadly, I've become a bit of an homegrown expert in recent years. One statistic I know is this - when my wife was first diagnosed in March 2003, one woman in 10 contracted the disease in Holland. By the time she died in May 2007, the figure was one in nine.

Less than 20 hours to show time, bed calls........

RIP Iron Man

Rock On and keep the Faith

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Welcome George, I'm glad Joes music has helped you in your time of need. Stay in touch on the forum, there are more than a few of us who can relate to your stories of comfort and needs.

Shred

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

JBrules wrote:

Geko , Really sorry to hear of your loss yesterday . I'm sure Spike will be well cared for in heaven, and will be there with his tail waggin when you join him.  Try to stay positive during this tough time, and enjoy the concert at the Parsdiso . Let Joes music heal your soul   .. Paul/JBrules

hallo paul thank you very mutch for your helpfull words
i was in Amsterdam ..and in colonge and you not belive in both konzerts he has played asking around for you !!!.........i mean not that it was for me played i think ....But it has let me feel very special ...a feeling that i can not repeat in words....it was very cool ....have take pics with Joe together i had a very nice
smaltalk with Rick Carmine and my absolout frind Dave wink
hes the best!!!

in one sentence i had all a FAN can Dream of in his wildest Dreams
here again thanks at all.......Spezial
bye
Geko

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Hey Geko,
              Thats excellent . glad you enjoyed yourself . Sounds like both concerts
rocked. Joe playing your special song twice is way cool and I'm sure made you feel happy and sad all in one.
I wish I was there . Thank You for sharing with us .            Paul/JBrules

Re: A Bridge to Better Days - Two years later

Hi Amsterhammer
Will you please tell me specifically what songs helped you. I have a friend whose wife just tragically and unexpectedly died and I'd love to make him a CD...I agree Bridge is an amazing and heartening song...

thanks
M