As a player AND a luthier, i have all sorts of run-ins with all sorts of fret sizes and string guages. In my personal opinion/experience it really is all up to what kind of feel you desire. For my playing style I tend to like to use 11's on my standard tuned guitars, and i like to dig in. Ive tried out all different fret sizes and they all have a different feel. But, if you like alot of "meat" under your fingers the bigger frets are nice, not to mention they tend to last longer. I have had a few experiences doing re-frets on customers guitars where the customer wanted the absolute biggest, most gigantic frewire i could find. Personally i felt it was too much, but the customers loved it.
I tend to use a, what i'd call, medium-jumbo fret wire on my guitars. They have enough meat on them to feel comfortable when "digging in" But it dosent feel unnessasarily chunky under my fingers. Also, if you do end up going with super jumbo fretwire and you dont like the height, they can always be filed down a bit more to relieve some of that. But not much you will be able to do about the width of the wire after installed.
But you will never really truly know what you like till you try it. Maybe also try going to a guitar shop and asking if they have any examples of guitars with super jumbo frets to try out.
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